five love languages

Chapman's five love languages are Words of affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. After taking the test my score was words of affirmation: 8, quality time: 10, receiving gifts: 2, acts of service: 3, and physical touch: 5. I can agree with my scores well. 
 When reading the five love languages I could point out my strengths. 

Quality time: is the most important to me because what is a relationship without quality time? There is no meaning. For myself, it feels like there is no relationship if your not spending time with one another. You do not have the ability to get to know each other. It takes years to get to know someone completely if at all. If there was not quality time, which there has not been much in my relationship, I kind of feel like I am sleeping next to a stranger. Children especially, if there is one thing children need it is that quality time It makes children feel loved, secure, and it is a way to show that the world is a safe place. I feel that life is so short, everyone needs that quality time together, no matter what it is. To me quality time is what builds the healthy relationships in the family. 

 Receiving Gifts: I ranked the lowest in receiving gifts. You can never be too excited to receive a special gift from a special person. I think the topic of receiving gifts is quite low. Though, it may feel heart-warming, I think about how there are children who have very little or nothing at all. We should be thankful for what we already have. I love receiving gifts but it is not something I would expect to get nor is it something I would need to feel loved.

Acts of Service: It may help the stress when my partner helps out and I am thankful for it but I am use to doing everything on my own. It was the second lowest category I ranked in but I have always done great with juggling many things at one time. My focus is just to get things done. I appreciate when I get help on chores because it gets things done faster and I will always appreciate a person for helping me.

Physical touch: I could not make it through a relationship if there was no physical touch. When I am in public with my loved one, I want to feel special and feel like I am his one and only. By doing so, I enjoy holding hands, having each others hands around our waists, hugging, and kissing. It shows that the couple are not afraid to show that they are a true couple, they both want this couple relationship they have. My favorite type of physical touch is cuddling. Nothing is better than having both my baby boy and my significant other cuddled up into my arms. A strong feeling of love is in the air! 

Words of Affirmation: As this was my second highest, as it should be in my opinion, every partner, every relationship needs to feel supported for a healthy relationship. Compliments keeps the positive energy in the family. I feel everyone needs encouragement. I know I do. For all the times I felt like giving up because I was so stressed out, I never did because I had a family to encourage me in my work. Every day, every night, just about I go to work and go to school along with taking care of my two year old who will be three on the 29th. Therefore, I also have a birthday to plan which is just more things that needs to be done. "actions speak louder than words" to me, yes I agree but words are also a powerful thing. The way I am spoken to much of the time sucks. We constantly fight and argue and its unhealthy. As some point I use to always get an I love You every day and night. I use to get encouragement about my school work and that stopped from my loved one. Though, I still have family support, it hurts a bit inside because it feels like I am being pushed away. Our communication sucks! Words of affirmation has everything to do with communication and I think the more encouraged people are on words of affirmation the more positivity the communication is between a  couple and provides a much healthier relationship. Words of affirmation shows me that my loved one is by my side, is willing to help support me, and wants me to go after my dreams.

I think the reason my relationship is as rocky as it is, is because we both are complete opposites with our love language. I honestly believe if he were to take the test, he would rank the highest in the two I ranked the lowest in. That is difficult because it can get frustrating with our communication. We both easily get upset because neither one of our top two love language are being met to what we believe are our highest qualities in love language.